BREAKING NEWS: “I Had No Say In My Jarring Breakup With Ramses In The Love Island Blind DC” – Marissa… See More Details 👇

Spoilers for the Love is Blind season 7 finale ahead. Though Netflix’s landmark reality TV show Love is Blind has been on for four years, there have been surprisingly few conversations about politics between the show’s engaged couples. (This seems like something to discuss before heading to the altar.) That has changed with Love is Blind season 7’s cast of D.C. residents, who have brought some interesting conversations about their voting records and military service to the screen. The latter became one of the biggest disagreements that Marissa George and Ramses Prashad have faced on the road to the altar, and many fans are wondering whether the couple could work through their issues and make it to the wedding.

Below, read on for a breakdown of Marissa and Ramses’s time on Love is Blind season 7 and any clues we have of whether the couple are still together after filming.

What happened between Marissa and Ramses on ‘Love is Blind’ season 7?
When she arrives in the pods, bubbly law student Marissa clicks with two men: nonprofit associate Ramses and Ukrainian veteran Bodhan. Though Marissa and Bodhan have a lot of similarities—they share a military background and a love of fantasy books—Ramses impresses Marissa with his healthy masculinity, as she has previously dated very traditional military men (including a hardcore Trump supporter). She also gets excited that he’s a Cancer-Leo-Leo, which supposedly means he’s in touch with his emotions and craves a passionate relationship. Eventually, she decides to move forward with Ramses, and Bodhan is very mature about it and it’s quite refreshing (especially compared to season 7’s other pod love triangle).

Ramses and Marissa have one of the season’s best in-person reveals. They are into each other and make it clear; Ramses almost forgets to give her the ring since he’s so excited. That joyful passion continues in Hawaii, where they’re the first couple to have sex and are generally on cloud nine the whole time.

Unfortunately, the vibe changes once they return to D.C. and move in together. While having dinner together in episode 7, their conversation about wedding arrangements—they don’t want the ceremony to be officiated by a cis-hetero—shifts to their religious upbringings. Ramses was raised very religiously and divorced his childhood sweetheart after moving away from the Christian faith, while Marissa was raised Mormon and has been unlearning all of the patriarchal norms under which she grew up.

Then the conversation moves to Marissa’s complicated feelings about her eight years of Navy service. Ramses, who is from Venezuela, is strongly against American imperialism and the military-industrial complex. Marissa isn’t cool with “half the shit” the military does, but she doesn’t want to completely dismiss something that she gave so much of her life to. (She also says that she was taught to revere the military since she was a kid.) It’s an uncomfortable conversation, and it comes up again when they have drinks with Marissa’s friends, and Ramses reassures them that it would be a deal breaker if Marissa re-enlisted or joined the reserves. However, Marissa has no intentions to rejoin. Ramses also seems okay with Marissa’s desire to share her military background with their future children and let them choose their own career paths. Marissa’s friends say they’re concerned whether Marissa and Ramses can raise kids with such big differences, but the couple seems to be working towards the same ideology.

Ramses’s family doesn’t appear on the show, but Marissa’s mom Vanessa has enough personality to make up for five “meet the family” scenes. Marissa’s siblings seem to get along with Ramses and say he’s better than many of her old boyfriends. However, her mom scrutinizes his answers about their relationship and his “off” fashion. Vanessa at least explains how rough it was raising her kids on her own and dealing with poverty, before grilling Ramses on whether he plans to further his career. Vanessa says she doesn’t think Ramses is “a bum,” but she would also like him to sign a prenup before marrying Marissa, so he doesn’t “fuck her over” like other men in her life have. Ramses is cool with the prenup, but Marissa pushes back against her mom and seems secure in not letting Vanessa push them around. Vanessa’s last words to Ramses: “If you hurt my daughter, I will cut your balls off.”

After all that, another issue shakes up the couple: birth control. Marissa is clear that she doesn’t want to go on birth control due to health complications, but Ramses doesn’t want to have kids any time soon, and he has big reservations about sex with a condom. This resurfaces in episode 10, after an offscreen conversation where Marissa tells Ramses she’d be okay with having kids earlier than their three-to-five-year timeline. Their physical intimacy has lessened since Cabo—which makes sense since Marissa’s commuting two hours from the shared apartment to work every day—and Ramses seems to want that level of passion all the time. As doubts sneak into Ramses’s head, Marissa wonders whether her not being in the mood will continue to be an issue after they get married, since there may be periods when she isn’t going to want to be as touchy-feely.

Unfortunately, Marissa and Ramses’s final days before their wedding are filled with more stress than anticipation. During their final date, Marissa says that Ramses hasn’t been putting in that much effort with her mother or wedding planning. She says she doesn’t want to end up shouldering most of the mental load during their marriage, which is a slippery slope for any relationship. She also doesn’t want to get divorced, saying that she’d be “willing to be unhappy” for five to seven years in terms of sticking it out for the marriage. This seems to concern Rames, as he’s determined to make his second marriage his last, but not if it comes at the cost of his happiness.

The final episode before the wedding ends with the aftermath of a disagreement. It’s unclear what they were discussing, but Marissa says that it isn’t an issue they’ve been having the whole time and that Ramses “talked to some people” and began having more doubts. However, Ramses points out that the new unnamed issue is “one of those things… in terms of experiencing what it’s like to exist together and to live together and all of that.” It’s a vague conversation, but Ramses is clear that marriage isn’t just love, and “there’s other things that have to work.” Marissa still wants to get married and “take the risk of falling in love,” but the episode ends before we see whether the pair are done for good.

The season 7 finale starts with the rest of Marissa and Ramses’s conversation, and it unfortunately doesn’t get any clearer after a week’s wait. Ramses says he’d gotten cold feet after speaking with his brother and his niece’s mother the night before; they made him realize how hurt his ex was after the divorce, and he doesn’t want to make the same mistake that he always does. Then he admits that he had brushed some hang-ups aside cause he loves Marissa, and when pushed, he cites their different energies as they’ve been living together, and whether her energy could be too much for him in the real world. He tries to pull, “It’s not you, it’s me,” but Marissa’s left in tears saying that all of the guys she’s dated have loved the first couple of months with her and then switched up on her over time.

And with that scene, Ramses and Marissa are over just days before the wedding, and Marissa is heartbroken.

Speaking with Vulture on October 23 after the finale was released, Marissa confirmed that she was “blindsided” by the breakup, and “the level of doubt and uncertainty he felt.”

“It was so jarring!” she said. “I’m not gonna lie. Had he told me throughout the process, ‘Oh, yeah, I love you, babe, but there are some things we need to figure out before I move on,’ that would have helped with the breakup. But when someone’s looking you in the face every day, multiple times a day, saying, ‘I’m 100 percent in,’ it’s jarring to hear, all of a sudden, ‘Not only do I no longer want to get married to you—I don’t want to date you anymore. I don’t want to do anything anymore.’ At that point, you feel like your world’s upside down, really. You’re like, ‘Am I freaking crazy?'”

Marissa also revealed that she was willing to continue dating Ramses after ending the engagement, but he was certain about their breakup.

“It was a complete split,” she told the outlet. “I gave him the option because he kept saying, ‘I love you. I want to be with you. My heart wants to be with you, but I have to be logical here—I can’t follow my emotions.’ I was like, ‘Okay, let’s be logical. We don’t have to do the marriage. We could just stay engaged.’ Or, ‘We don’t have to stay engaged. We could just date.’ And I didn’t really want to break up, to be honest. But I was willing to meet him at a place where he was never willing to meet me. He’d already made his decision. I really had no say in this breakup.”

As for Ramses’s side of things, he hasn’t given any interviews since season 7 began airing, so we’ll have to wait until the October 30 finale to hear his explanation.